Tatted Mom's Guide to NOT Screwing Up Your Kids is almost here. It's been a long road, taking over a year now to fully write, edit and get published, but we are in the home stretch. Fingers crossed, I will have an official release date as early as this weekend for y'all, but just keep in mind that it will be sometime this month.
I'm excited. Like, super excited. Like, got-to-eat-cheesecake-and-cheesy-poofs-all-weekend-and-woke-up-Monday-morning-having-lost-5-pounds excited. Only, this excitement is based in reality (sigh- if only you could eat cheesecake and cheesy poofs all weekend and wake up lighter).
So, it's time for another book teaser. I'm pulling random entries from throughout the book. Enjoy!!
From Chapter 2: The Baby is Hungry
Myth #4: Breastfeeding is a supply and demand system; the more your baby feeds, the more milk you will produce so there will always be food for your baby.
Tatted Mom’s Truth #4: Supply and demand is a lie... at least for me it was. That’s why my daughter stopped breastfeeding at ten months and my son stopped at three months. No matter how much they ate, I never replenished fast enough, especially not for my son. Like I said above, he came out the size of a three month old, so I fed him every single hour for weeks straight to try and build my milk supply, and he was always hungry. Then, I tried alternating breastfeeding with bottlefeeding to give my boobs some time to build milk up, and when he’d feed from me after a few hours, it still wasn’t enough for him and I had to make a bottle real quick to top him off. So when it came to the option of my kids always being hungry but breastfeeding exclusively until they were 1 year old, or switching them to formula because my milk just didn’t produce like other moms and having full, healthy kids, I switched them to formula, no questions asked.
Myth #5: When a child bites down on your nipple hard, it won’t hurt as badly as you think it will, so the best thing to do is remain calm and the worst possible thing to do is react negatively to it.
Tatted Mom’s Truth #5: When a kid bites down hard on your nipple, teeth or no teeth, that shit hurts. I’ll
never forget the first time The Girl bit down- I was sitting on the sofa watching TV, and when she bit down, it felt just like a bee sting, so my natural first reaction was to smack the bee... or what ended up being her forehead. Yep, that really happened. Don’t get me wrong, I felt horrible about it, and burst into tears as a new mother. It caught me off guard, and the light smack caught her off guard and scared her to where she never bit down on me again. If you can remain calm when that kid bites down, then more power to you, but if you end up instinctively smacking them in the forehead like I did, don’t beat yourself up about it. They won’t cower in your presence or be scared that you are going to randomly smack them years down the road because it got ingrained in them from the age of three months old.
From Chapter 7: Fixing More Than Macaroni and Cheese
Myth #1: Fixing my kids what they want ensures that they are at least eating something. If I don’t fix them what they’ll eat, they’ll starve.
Tatted Mom’s Truth #1: Your child will not starve themselves. I can 100% guarantee it. These are the same kids who make mud pies in the back yard and try them out to see what they taste like. They will not pass down a hot meal of seafood alfredo because the little shrimps look gross. They reason so many moms use this as an excuse is because they try for one meal to get their kids to branch out, and when it doesn’t work, they give up. Let the kids skip that meal. I promise you, they won’t skip the next one. And don’t go letting them have snacks after the dinner they refused to eat, either. That just reinforces the horrible eating habits. This whole picky eating thing is usually a test of wills with kids. They love macaroni and cheese and chicken nuggets, so they turn down everything else put in front of them until you feed them their favorite meal again, and they stick to it. The more you give in, the more they will take advantage of you.
Tips for Creating Healthy Eating Habits in Children
- Introduce your kids to the kitchen as soon as possible. Each of my kids was around the age of two when I had them actually help me prepare meals, but even before that, I’d put them in their high chair, give them a snack and pull the high chair into the kitchen while I prepared a meal with fresh meat and vegetables. I’ve always had my kids pick out meals for us, help cut vegetables, or even given them easy instructions for sauces. When they were too young for any of these options, I had them hand me things so I could cook. A toddler feels like king of the world when you say to him, “Hand Mommy that spoon right there, please,” and even if he hands you the salt, a random apple or the cat instead, he’s a big boy who helped his mom make dinner. Having the kids interact with the cooking process almost guarantees them to eat it, because their pride will kick in, as well as their curiosity. They’ll think, “I helped make this sauce, so I wonder if it sucks or not.” Plus, they’ll see that, despite the fact that those shrimp look like fat worms, no worms went into the making of the meal.
- Put the “Mom is eating something, I want a bite” quirk of motherhood to work for you. It never fails. As soon as you go to take a bite of your favorite cake or try and sneak a single M&M into your mouth as a mom, your child will appear out of nowhere and ask for a bite. I can remember one afternoon, when I was chopping up red peppers to go on a vegetable tray for a cookout we were going to, and as I popped a fresh red pepper slice into my mouth and started crunching away, The Girl, two at the time, appeared out of thin air and asked for a bite. I stared at the red pepper for a moment and thought there was no way she would eat it- two year olds didn’t eat fresh red peppers. But, I handed her one anyway, she took a bite, and happily trotted off with a smile on her face. No dressing on it, no salt, nothing, and the child ate it and returned for a second one. Nine years later she’s not a fan of red peppers anymore, but when I put a vegetable tray out for us to munch on, she’ll eat carrots, celery, raw broccoli, cauliflower, cherry tomatoes and cucumbers. This concept worked at introducing my kids to sushi, too. Hubby and I love the stuff, so we would get some for just us and order the kids stir fry or their favorite Asian dish. Curiosity got the best of both of them, and soon they wanted to see why Hubby and I loved sushi so much. We let them try it, and they were hooked.
- Don’t make a big deal about your kids trying something new. .....
This was just a teaser, remember... ;)
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