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"Why is The Inklings of Life not a topic of conversation in every mommy circle out there, with tens of thousands of followers?"
I took it upon myself to do some deep research into blogging, mommy blogging, and top mommy blogging, and came up with some very interesting conclusions:
1. I don't over-share enough. I wasn't aware that some potential readers want to know exactly how my ass smells after an intense workout in the gym, or explicit details into my sex life or even the birth of my kids. While I promise that readers will get an honest, yet funny, look into parenthood, my life is still personal. Have you ever actually seen a picture of my kids' faces on here? Nope. Why? Because my kids are gorgeous and I'm afraid some freaky stalker will follow us around Target one day and try and kidnap my kids because they know what they look like. And, I want to keep some things about my family, well, private. I'll share funny stories about farts and how the cats don't leave me alone while I use the bathroom, but as far as explaining things in so much detail that you feel like you are sitting on the toilet next to me- not going to happen, sorry.
2. I don't drink enough or have enough prescriptions. I love my wine, don't get me wrong. But apparently, my glass every few days isn't quite enough for some readers. And, the fact that I currently lack
any prescription meds other than flexeril for my back, has many potential readers out there bored with me. I'm sure if I have a nervous breakdown (and I might be due for one here in the near future), my readership will double. Come on, crazy psychotic episode, where are you?
3. I like my kids and being a mother. I've noticed this amazing trend since I started blogging (about 3 years ago), away from positive mommy blogging into motherhood sucks, my kids are the spawns of Satan, my life is horrible, kill me now mommy blogging. I don't get it. These women wanted kids, right? They made the decision to be mothers, right? So what happened, and more importantly, why portray your life in this way for the entire world to see? I love my kids. Most days, I like my kids, too. I love being a mom. Is motherhood always rainbows, butterflies and unicorns? Hell no. Some days the rainbows are covered by clouds, the butterflies have a broken wing, and the unicorns won't stop crapping everywhere. But that's not every single day of motherhood. So, if the trend in mommy blogging is to constantly complain about motherhood, then I will never be a top blog. Sorry.
4. I know the basics of parenting. I happened upon this blog recently when I was researching mommy blogs who have published books (as I will have a book out soon). This woman had written a post about how her toddler had run around so long without a diaper change that the child's diaper was overflowing, was sagging to the child's knees, and crap was spilling out onto the floor as the child walked. As I'm reading this, I'm wondering how on earth this woman is selling books when she should be in jail for child neglect. And furthermore, her book was in the top 100 selling humor parenting books. Seriously? That story is not funny; it's horrible. Why didn't she just change the child's diaper? Why hasn't her child been taken away from her? And why would she share this story with the entire world? I guess because my kids were taken care of and I know the basics on parenting and safety of my children that some people find that boring. Oh, well.
5. I refuse to play nice. We talked about networking in this blogging meeting. We talked about how networking and getting to know other bloggers and writers, you can work together to promote each other's blogs and gain readers. I have watched so many mom bloggers, just starting out, network with these negative, 'life sucks' mommy bloggers out there, and as a result, their readership has skyrocketed. I can't do it. I refuse to associate myself and my blog with these women who hate motherhood just to get my name out there. If you have been a reader for a while, you are probably having a sense of deja vu right now because just back in January, I blogged about this subject. But a blogger's life is spent re-evaluating every few months, just to make sure they are staying true to their original intent for their blog, and the blogging workshop had me looking at things again. I still can't play nice with others. I have accepted that about myself, and while I don't do it in my personal life, I can't do it in my blogging life, either.
Inklings will continue to be a place where you all can come to read about the craziness of motherhood, but please understand that my craziness falls within guidelines of child safety laws. If you are looking for a blog where the mom ignores her kids and drinks all day, this isn't it. My life is unlike any other, my kids are not cookie-cutter kids, and the story of Hubby and I goes against just about every statistic of not only high school loves getting married, but also of separation and divorce period. I love sharing my stories, advice and nonsense with readers who appreciate it. This will remain a positive blog, though. I feel it always has been, and that's what it will continue to be.
That's what I learned the most at this blogging workshop. Very valuable lesson, indeed.
Thanks to all of the readers out there who make Inklings what it is, and who get me up and writing each day. Y'all rock! If you decide you want to pimp me out to other positive mamas you know, then please do so. There are several links in the right sidebar (including a new G+ one to recommend Inklings to your Google+ circles), and facebook and twitter share buttons all over the place. We should strive to make Inklings a gathering place for moms who are sick of the negativity out there in the blogosphere.
And there's my tree-hugging public service announcement of the day.