Charmed. Considering Charmed is probably my all time favorite show, I was game for watching The Secret Circle. I was hooked after the first episode, only to google it and find out that, despite it being one of the highest watched shows on the CW, it was cancelled after 1 season. Thanks for the warning, Netflix.
This tidbit of information didn't stop The Girl and I from continuing to watch it. We are half way done with the season now, and while I absolutely adore the show, I'm completely raising my eyebrows at it.
When in the hell did teenagers start acting like adults?
Scratch that, I'll rephrase.
When in the hell did TV shows start portraying teenagers as they really are instead of hiding things so parents didn't truly know?
The characters in The Secret Circle are supposed to be 16 years old, and these kids are not only drinking every chance they get (and one of the characters, Faye, is always saying, 'Man, I need a drink'), but having sex as well. What the hell? When did shows geared toward teenagers make everything so out in the open and acceptable?
I'm not naive enough to say that teenagers don't drink and have sex. When I was a teenager, I drank and...
Mom, if you are reading, just skip this sentence... had sex (in my defense, I am married to the man now), but the TV shows I watched never showed the true side of teenagers. When Brenda lost her virginity to Luke at the spring dance on the original Beverly Hills, 90210, that episode was so controversial that my mom almost didn't let me watch it. Teenagers having sex on TV was unheard of, and Gabrielle, who was pregnant on Beverly Hills, 90210, was pretty much an outcast on the show. Think about it. Did Zack and Kelly ever have sex on Saved by the Bell? Hell no, they didn't. And when a teenage TV show character drank a single beer, all of their friends gathered together and had an intervention to help that person control their drinking problem.
Where did the TV innocence go?
Y'all have to understand that this is my first run-in with a show geared toward teenagers. I've heard of the stuff that went on over at Degrassi High, and on shows like Pretty Little Liars and The Secret Life of the American Teenager, but I never watched any of it. This is the first time I've been exposed to this open-minded, teenagers can act like adults crap, and to be honest, I'm not taking it well.
Teenagers think they are adults. That fact has never changed, no matter what year or decade it is. Teenagers do things that adults do. That has never changed, either. But in the past, teenagers always hid it. We never told our parents we were having sex; we went to the free clinic for our birth control and only told our closest friends, or we used condoms. We told our parents we were staying at our best friend's house, and she told her parents she was staying at our house, and then we stayed out all night at a party, praying to the gods above that we didn't get caught.
And our TV shows kept our secrets hidden. We happily watched virgin characters struggling for 1 episode with having sex, then ultimately deciding to wait until they are married. We watched as one alcoholic beverage was consumed, a deep, heartfelt discussion was had between friends, and the character decided they never wanted to drink again. And because we were fascinated by these TV shows, our parents thought we were just like those characters.
Not anymore. The CW and ABC Family have laid out all of the secrets of a teenager and made them acceptable in the eyes of society. They should be ashamed. While I understand that if teenagers are doing it, they want to include it in their story lines so that their shows are more relatable, but do they understand how much harder they are making our jobs, as parents? It's hard enough to sit down and have the talks with our kids about sex, drinking and drugs when it's not seen every day on their favorite shows. Some people might say it's making our job easier, because if the kids are seeing it happen on TV, that opens the lines of communication more, but I have to disagree. If these shows are making everything acceptable, like it's just a part of teenage life, then how am I supposed to tell my kids they should wait to have sex and shouldn't drink until they are of age? Good grief, as if we parents nowadays need more struggles to get through with our kids.
|Adam and Diana, The Secret Circle|
The Girl is only 10, but as the Twilight movie series is her favorite right now, and I'm okay with those movies, I assumed The Secret Circle wouldn't be too bad. I'm not necessarily regretting my decision to have us start watching The Secret Circle, but it has caused me to look deeper into shows that the CW and ABC Family deem as appropriate for a younger age bracket. Yes, yes, I know The Girl isn't 16, which is the age group shows like The Secret Circle are geared towards, but even if she were 16, I'd be raising my eyebrows. Actually, I'd be even more hesitant to allow her to watch TV because then she'd be seeing kids her own age doing things they shouldn't. At least now I still have the age of innocence on my side, with her only being 10.
I guess this whole thing has just shocked me, and worried me, about what I have ahead of me as a parent. Dating, sex, drugs, drinking, smoking... blah to it all. Looking at all of this through the eyes of a parent now is stressful. I can't fully enjoy shows like The Secret Circle because I'm worried about what's going on in The Girl's mind when she sees 2 teenagers ripping each other's clothes off or talk about 'hooking up' when they don't love each other and aren't even dating.
I think it's time to reinstate the chastity belt? Who's with me on this one?