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Over the years, I've managed to dodge some pretty huge bullets with my kids by answering, "Just because" when they ask me something. Now that my kids are older, it's not that easy. They want answers, and they are old enough now to know when I'm bullshitting them.
I have a philosophy about how to answer older kids when they ask questions: Be as technical and proper as possible. Either they will understand it and your answer will satisfy them, or it will be so over their head that they'll say, 'Okay' and walk off, making sure to think twice before asking you another question. It's a win-win situation, in my opinion.
It's just getting through the actual answering of the difficult questions that's the hard part. Kids are exposed to so much nowadays, that I know my kids ask me questions that I didn't have to ask my parents when I was their age. It sure makes life... interesting.
So today I wanted to share with y'all some real questions my kids have asked me and my actual answers to those questions. I couldn't make this shit up if I tried...
The Ginger: Why are those two girls in the pool kissing?
Me: Because they love each other.
G: Yeah, but why is it two girls kissing?
M: Because love can not be defined. Once you love someone, you love them, and sometimes girls love girls. Just like sometimes boys love boys. Most of the time girls love boys and boys love girls, but sometimes it's different. Is love bad?
M: Then there. As long as they are loving, it's okay. Unless it's a person kissing an animal. Then it's gross and not a good thing. Now quit staring at the lesbians, please. They aren't a sideshow act.
G: What's a sideshow act?
M: Nevermind. Good grief, they need to bring back the freak shows at the circus and fair. My kids are so sheltered.
The Girl: Mom, if we don't go to church, are we going to the H-E-L-L place?
Me: No, why?
G: Well, we were told that if we don't go to church, and accept Jesus Christ as our savior, that we'll go to the H-E-L-L place when we die.
M: (I knew the culprit in this one, so instead of flipping out about who told my kids that, I decided to answer the question anyway.) What's your favorite flavor of ice cream?
G: Mom, I asked you a question.
M: I know, and I'm trying to answer it for you. What's your favorite flavor of ice cream?
G: I don't know. Mint.
M: Okay. Hey, Ginger, what's your favorite flavor of ice cream?
The Ginger: Chocolate. Are we getting ice cream?
M: Nope. Just needed your opinion. Thanks.
|Look, there's 4 different religions right there!|
M: I know, I'm horrible. (Back to The Girl) Okay, your favorite flavor of ice cream is mint, which means you think mint is the best, right? And your brother's favorite flavor is chocolate, which means he thinks that flavor is the best, right?
The Girl: Yeah, I guess.
M: Okay, well religion is like ice cream. What one person thinks is the best may not be what's best for another person. Neither person is wrong, and both people are right for what fits their lives. Just because that person told you that they believe if you don't go to church that you will go to hell when you die doesn't mean that's what you have to believe. That's what they believe, and what's right for them.
G: Okay, so we won't go to hell if we don't go to church?
M: I don't believe so, no. My flavor of ice cream is different than the person who said that to you.
G: And both of you are right?
M: In a way, yes. The only times when religion is wrong is when it hurts other people or when one person goes around telling everyone else that their flavor of ice cream is wrong and they need to only eat one particular flavor of ice cream, or, well, they'll go to hell.
G: Gotcha. Can we get ice cream now?
M: No, but I'm glad we got the whole 'going to hell' thing figured out.
The Ginger: Can I have a little baby brother or sister?
G: Why not?
M: Because your daddy and I can't have kids anymore.
G: But you had me and my sister.
M: Yeah, but that was years ago. Your daddy and I, as a couple, can not have any more kids. So, you are stuck with just your sister, forever.
G: But can't you just go to the hospital and get a new baby?
M: A- That's not how it works, and B- No, there are no new babies ever coming again for your daddy and I.
G: But why?
M: Because we decided that you and your sister were the most perfect kids ever, and we'd be pushing our luck to have another one to the point where the 3rd kid could come out with one eyeball and 4 legs, so we decided to not have any more kids. Make sense?
G: Yeah. I mean, I'm perfect, but my sister could use some work.
M: (laughing) Yeah, I'm glad I can still get away with not explaining things to you fully, yet.
M: Nevermind, honey. Go play.
The Girl: Mom, this kid outside just got mad at The Ginger for saying he was black. Why?
Me: Why what?
G: Why did he get mad that The Ginger said he was black? He is black.
M: Was what The Ginger said mean?
G: No. (The Girl proceeded to tell me exactly what The Ginger said, which, for the life of me, I can't remember. I do remember it was not racist or derogatory, which is why I remember the rest of the conversation- because I had to explain racism to her.)
M: Well, everyone in this world has something that just upsets them. With some people, it's race. What The Ginger said isn't bad, but maybe the little boy can only see that he is black and that The Ginger is white, and because of that, he misunderstood what The Ginger was saying and thought it was bad.
G: But why does it matter who is black and who is white?
M: That, my dear, is a question that half the world needs answering. Sometimes people don't like other people if they are a different color. That's called racism, and it's not good. You shouldn't dislike someone because of the color of their skin. But, from now on, just to be on the safe side, since you don't see a difference between people who are black and people who are white, then there's no reason to bring up the color of someone's skin in any conversation, okay?
G: Okay. We need to tell The Ginger, too.
M: I'll cover it with him.