When I picked my kids up from school one day last week, my daughter had clearly been crying. Her teacher came and told me she and a few other kids had to meet with the guidance counselor because of a gossip ring that had gotten out of control and visibly upset The Girl.
Gossip ring? They are in the 5th grade. What kind of gossip ring is there in the 5th grade? Did someone steal her Capri Sun at lunch and we were having to dig through the rumors to find out who did it? What could 5th graders possibly gossip about that would have my daughter in tears?
At this point in the story, I'm finding it very hard to keep my mouth shut, but out of respect for my daughter, I let her continue.
The best friend betraying The Girl's trust wasn't the problem. The boy she liked came and talked to her, told her it was okay, that he liked her, too. That's when the rumor started that The Girl and this boy were dating.
Dating... the 5th grade... I bit my tongue so The Girl could continue.
The dating rumor upset The Girl a little, but it wasn't until a little boy in another class, when he heard about The Girl and this boy "dating", got jealous and decided to make up a rumor that The Girl doesn't like people that aren't white, that The Girl got very upset and the guidance counselor intervention was needed.
Where in the hell do I even start with this? Before I completely dive in, I will say that, thank goodness, the guidance counselor told all kids involved that they were too young for this
like 10 year old children again, forgetting the "dating"
What in the hell has the world come to when 10 year olds are talking about dating, and racism, and rumors and gossip? The Girl having a crush on a classmate and telling her best friend? Completely understandable at this age. The best friend breaking her promise and running and telling the boy? Completely expected at this age. The two 10 year olds "dating"? Entirely too mature for this age (wasn't it called 'going together' back when we were young?). The Girl having a rumor started that she's racist? I'm sorry, but I believe the child who started this rumor needs to have his parents informed and they should come in and have a meeting with me. Racism isn't funny, nor is trying to start a false rumor about my child being a racist. That's completely uncalled for at any age, especially at 10 years old, though. Maybe starting the rumor that The Girl had cooties would be a little more acceptable at this age.
Why would this kid immediately jump to racism in the first place? Did no one else find that to be a little odd? Seems to me that the child is being taught some amazing life lessons at home. Does no one think that maybe that needs to be looked into a little bit?
The only thing I could muster to tell The Girl when she got finished with her story was that the guidance counselor was right, and all of this
How did I remain so calm throughout this? Honestly, I have no idea. Dating, racism, gossip, rumors... all at age 10? This is absolutely ridiculous. These kids are growing up way too fast, diving into topics and situations that they know nothing about, more than likely because it's something they saw or heard on TV, or overheard the older kids talking about.
I remember age 10. I moved to the middle of nowhere at age 10. My biggest concern was making sure I didn't get chewing gum stuck in my braces because then my mom would know I was chewing gum, which I wasn't supposed to be doing because I had braces. I didn't worry about boys until the 6th grade, and then not even remotely seriously until middle school. This drama these kids are putting themselves through, are creating, isn't drama I experienced until somewhere between 7th and 8th grade.
Yet another reason why I'd like to keep my children in a time warp or move out to the middle of nowhere and home school them. This is getting ridiculous.
On a positive note, my daughter reported to me yesterday that all is well at school; all of the kids involved have seemed to put their differences behind them, and the children who witnessed tears falling from The Girl's eyes have forgotten all about it. She's back to looking forward to school each day, which is better for me right now, because when this all happened, she begged me to home school her starting now.
No one would benefit from me home schooling my kids, I'm sure of it. My sanity, above all, agrees with me on that statement.