Monday, April 30, 2012

Big Decision Made... Let the Kegels Begin!

Wish it was that simple.
In all of the hustle and bustle of Hubby coming home, The Ginger's surgery, and just life in general, I realized I have forgotten to update you Inklingers on what Hubby and I finally decided for, well, our future together.

As a quick recap, for those that have just joined us, Hubby lives 2000 miles away (we were separated, then we decided to get our heads out of our asses and make this marriage and family work), we had a tentative plan of him moving here with us, then My Epiphany and How Badly it Sucks happened, and we decided to wait until he came to visit for The Ginger's surgery and kids' spring break to make our major life decision.

The kids and I are moving to Arizona. Yep, I'm quitting my tattoo artist day job (but not my ninja assassin night job- that's needed out west, too), and going back to being a stay at home mom. You know what that means?

All craziness and hell is going to break loose on Inklings. Oh yeah, it's going to be AWESOME! Hella fun stories about me and the PTA, and volunteering in my kids' classrooms, and having to walk 3 flights of stairs to do laundry in Hubby's apartment complex, and my first ever summer with the kids where I haven't worked, and how effing hot it is in Arizona, and how one adjusts to repairing their marriage after 3 years of being separated, and becoming a military wife again. I can't wait!

This is all going down in about 7 weeks... holy shit, right? I have to pack up an apartment, go through storage items, have it all shipped, ship my car, make sure the cats are up to date on their shots and get them fixed, and so much more, in just 7 weeks. All while working for the next 6 weeks and saving all of the money we can to move cross country.

Do you know how much it costs to move cross country? An ass load. Especially when you factor in the cost of lube. What? Lube? Yeah, that's from an old post... Moving Requires Lots of Lube.

Anyway, then, once the day actually comes, I have to fly, solo this time, with 2 kids. I normally take valium
when I fly, but it's kinda hard to be drugged up on anti-mom-panic-attack pills and take care of 2 kids for a cross country flight, which I know will have a layover somewhere. So, it will be time, once again, to buck up and be a woman with a vagina of steel.

All of the stress, the worry, everything, will all be worth it, because on the other side of this journey is my Hubby and putting our family back together. Having help disciplining the kids, being able to cuddle on the couch and watch movies, foot rubs, spooning while we sleep, being able to storm off into the bedroom, slam the door and say, 'You deal with the kids right now or else I'm killing someone!', cooking together, laughing, joking, kissing, family outings, everything. And Hubby and I starting the new beginning to the rest of our lives.

Because let me tell you, I'm not going through this again. I'll kill him before I go through this moving cross country with the kids bullshit another time. And, I watch a lot of crime shows; I know how to make it look like an accident.

I'm sure it won't come to that extreme, though. Hubby and I have been doing great. Sure, we're 2000 miles away from each other at the moment, but any mom who has a husband that has to travel for work knows that a lot of the times, the miles and time apart cause friction and arguments. I'm not saying Hubby and I don't bite at each other every now and then, but it's nowhere near the way it used to be.
My family, back together

So yes, we decided to take the route that has the kids and I moving to Arizona, and if you read the pros and cons in the Epiphany post above, you'll see that means being away from extended family, doing 6 more years in the military and putting up with all that military life entails. But, we'll be financially secure, with benefits, not worrying about income from a commission job, the kids will have their mom around 24/7, and in just a few years we'll have a retirement check to help us out. The decision we made settles me to my inner core.

I just wonder what I'm going to do with myself while the kids are in school. I've toyed with the idea of taking some online classes or going to a community college. Maybe I'll write... who wouldn't want to read a book about the crazy ass stuff I post? Ha! That's pretty humorous in itself...

Honestly, it doesn't really matter right now. I'm concentrating on doing what I need to do to get my family back together again, which is a lot. Like, a shit ton lot. Almost overwhelming lot.

Time to put my big girl panties on and start turning this vagina into steel.

Can that be done with kegels? Just curious...

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  1. Moving is rough, and I know better than anyone that there are ten thousand things about the military that suck, but I'm sure when you make to Arizona and the whole family is back together again it will have been worth the trouble. Best of luck making it across the country! Just think of all the little mishaps as prime blog material... ;)

  2. Thanks! I know it will all be worth it; it's getting there that's the tough part, lol. =)

  3. I suggest squats. Supposedly they're way better than kegals, plus they'll help prepare you for going up and down all those stairs.

    Good luck surviving the upcoming 7 weeks. It's going to be so much fun. If you need someone to bitch to about reconnecting in person, shoot me an email. That reconnect can be a c*nt. ;P

    1. Hehehe, your language makes me giggle.

      So, I absolutely hate squats and lunges, but I incorporated them into today's workout... along with kegels, lol.

      Some days the reconnect scares the crap out of me, but most days I know that we appreciate each other so much more now, with all the crap we've been through in the last 3 years, and that will fuel us through the awkwardness. But, if it starts to turn c*nty, I'll shoot you an email, lol. Thanks!


    2. K, I just spit my water out. You kill me!

  4. Sounds like you have your hands full. A husband living two thousand miles away is always a difficult thing. I hear Arizona is nice, and I doubt the allergies and pollen is bad there.

  5. How exciting! For me, selfishly, I'm excited as all heck about your move because I used to live in Arizona and still have work stuff there and maybe I can work with you to get some ink after all! :-)

    Moving is The Suck. We moved from Phoenix to Austin a year ago and still haven't recovered. But, it's always fun and of course you're up for the challenge!

    Big Girl Panties, bring it on.

  6. Sweet! So cool that we'll be in each other's neck of the woods.

    The amazing thing, that I forgot to add to the post... 3 months after the kids and I move to Arizona, we are moving again, into a bigger house. Yeah. So, my stuff is just staying in storage, again, until September or so. Fun fun (enter sarcasm here) lol.