Tuesday, April 5, 2011

Creating Normalcy

The kids are off to school, there's a cup of coffee sitting next to me, Bones is running around chasing, hell I don't know, her tail, Z is back in bed, and I'm (finally) blogging--- what's this? Deja vu? Ahh, memories of how things were just a few short months ago.

I've been MIA. Seriously. For those who have been with me a while, you can be happy once again; I have interwebbies in the house, and because I've taken such a long break from blogging, my head is exploding with ideas. I think I might just sit around all day and write; save draft after draft, hoard them like a squirrel getting ready for winter, in case life gets crazy again.

If this is your first time venturing to The Inklings of Life, then you've come at a great time. Hell, about 6 months ago was a great time to be here, too. I was winning awards, on the track to being a pretty popular mommy blog. Then life threw a curveball. It's still my goal though, promise you that. But head through the archives, check out the Readers Favorite Posts; you'll see that this was a pretty crazy place to hang out- and once will be again. =)

Amidst all this chaos, establishing a routine and creating some normalcy around here has been my top priority. I have a 45 minute (one way) commute to work everyday, which has given me tons of time to think, and the question popped into my head recently of 'What the hell is normalcy?' I mean, look at the word itself- it even looks abnormal. I've spell checked it a dozen times already- an 'l' then a 'c'? I thought maybe for a second I had made the word up, and my spell check was just laughing at me for entering in a word that doesn't exist. But it does. 'Being within certain limits that define a normal range of functioning.'

Hold up. I was taught in the first grade not to use the word itself in the definition... Oh how times have changed, I guess.....

So anyway, what the hell is normalcy, or normal, for that matter? I aim each day for my kids to not kill each other, or Z for that matter. Is that a normal daily goal? How about making sure Z knows to have a starch and a vegetable along with whatever slab of meat she cooked up for dinner, so everyone is getting a well balanced meal until I get home? Is that normal? What about checking those work pants I wore a few days ago to see how dirty they really are, because I didn't have time to do laundry and I don't have enough work clothes yet to last the week? And by check, I mean, check for dirt, smell check, the whole nine yards. Is that normal?

We all went from a house with a working dad, a stay at home mom, well rounded meals cooked each night, clean house, laundry done, homework done, etc. to a house with no dad, a mom working 38 hours a week plus 7.5 hours driving, a Z who is learning the ropes of cooking, a not filthy house, laundry might be a little damp cause the dryer sucks, and yes, homework is done each night. And it's been like this for 2 months now.

Is that enough time for 'normalcy' to kick in? Or am I just an impatient mom? Or..... GASP! No, the thought is too horrendous.....

Could this be our 'normalcy'??

I mean, we still haven't defined it without using the word 'normal' have we? So, could this be it? The next few years filled with (and yes, these are actual things that have occurred in our house in the last 2 months)...

  • 'Z, you can't just serve chicken sandwiches. Add some mac and cheese, green beans, something, please.' 'But they had lettuce on them.....'
  • 'I want dessert.' 'Son, you didn't eat your dinner.' 'I didn't know we even had dinner.' 'Yeah, I know. I told you 4 times to get off the video games, and you ignored me, so we ate without you, as a lesson learned....'
  • 'Sweetheart, why isn't Mommy's Supernatural taping? It's my favorite TV show, some of the only relaxed enjoyment I get in my week.' 'Ooohh. Yeah, the timer came on for that, but I wanted to keep watching Zoey 101, so I hit 'ignore' on it....'
  • 'Will you STOP trying to sit on the top of the sofa, please?' 'But the CAT can do it, why can't I?'
  • 'We have a leak under the kitchen sink and a leak in the Florida room when it rains. What do you want to do about them?' 'Put buckets under them...'
  • (from my 9 year old daughter as I'm putting her to bed one night) 'Why are you all dressed up?' 'Cause Mommy's going out for a little while. Z will be here with y'all.' 'How come you get to go out and have fun?' 'Because Mommy is 30 years old and works 40 hours a week. I only go out like once every 2 weeks, honey.' 'But I go to school as my job, so why can't I go out at night and have fun?' 'Because you're 9....'
  • 'What's for dinner tonight?' 'I don't know, pizza rolls?' 'At least serve some applesauce with them, please, so I don't feel like a complete failure as a mother...'
Yes, yes, this is our life right now. Still learning the ropes, waiting on consecutive normal paychecks so we don't have to live week to week anymore. Trying to figure out how to get a routine going. 

And keeping Supernatural on lock so hitting 'ignore' doesn't stop it from taping. Seriously, the Winchester brothers are the only steady men I have in my life each week....

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  1. Welcome back to the blogging world!

  2. Holy crap...that whole list of conversations sounds like a weekend at my house!!! I love it how the kids get mad when WE go out for a night. lol. And a chicken sandwich with lettuce is completely appropriate. It has a meat group, a vegetable and a grain. lol.
    The Glamorous Army Wife

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  4. Wow! I JUST posted a starting over/back from a break post today! Small world. Maybe the start of the year leads us to focus on other things besides blogging for a while?

    Anyway, welcome back to you too!


  5. Hey girl, I've been thinking about you and wondering where the hell the time has gone! Not too sure why I haven't been by in a while. So sorry for that, yup I suck!

    Love to catch up and hope all is well with you!