Now, most of my readers are married, like me, so the topic of birth control coming from an old married lady might be weird. Not really, when you think that even married couples want some sort of control over their family structure. I have come across a few families in my time that 'leave it to God', and end up with a bunch of kids (anyone seen 18 Kids and Counting on TV? She might be up to 19 by now, I don't know....), which is fine for them. Me, personally? No thanks. I have a boy and a girl; that's good for me.
So, when you are like me, something needs to be done to help control the procreation aspect of sex, so it can be more enjoyable without worrying if there will be another mouth to feed down the line. There are many forms of birth control, with pros and cons to both. Here's my take on the many different forms:
- Abstinence. The only 100% accurate form of birth control. Hahahahaha. Yeah, we aren't 15 year old girls. We're women.... most of us married.... with kids.... We can have sex. But I had to throw it in here in case a younger person happened upon my blog in looking up forms of birth control. Now that the laughter has subsided between us women, let's continue on....
- Natural Methods, such as Rhythm Method or Withdrawal Method, or What I Like to Call the 'Honey, We're Pregnant' Methods. I had quite a few friends in high school get pregnant from the 'pull out' method (withdrawal) of birth control. Basically, these natural methods require no use of barriers or drugs. They rely on charts, numbers, checking fluids and just praying to a higher power. Sounds more to me like something you do to your car, which, is getting your car checked all the time ever a fun experience? In my opinion, it's entirely too much work for not a trustworthy outcome. On average, natural birth control methods have a 75-85% effectiveness rate. I'm not putting my money on this one, sorry. If it's worked for you effectively in the past, please, do tell.
- Hormonal Contraceptives, i.e. The Pill, The Shot, The Ring, All of the 'The' Ones. The basic principal behind these, is they jack your hormone levels up past a point where you can ovulate, and just halt the entire ovulation/conception process. There are pros and cons to hormone contraceptives:
- Pros: You don't have to worry so much about other forms, as it's 99% effective if used correctly; regularity to your period; many of the pills clear up skin conditions or ease PMS symptoms; bigger boobs- yes ladies, I found a loophole to my boob envy problem; some of the hormonal methods do away with your period altogether
- Cons: You have to remember a pill everyday; antibiotics can lessen the effectiveness; weight gain- grrrrr; some methods can completely screw up your regularity; smokers have to worry about blood clots; some can act as a fertility drug (what? I explain next...)
- My Personal Experience: The Shot caused me to bleed for 6 weeks straight, and the doctor couldn't guarantee that the next shot would fix that- no thank you. The Pill clears up my skin, eases my cramps and lower back pain, causes regularity, fills out my boobs more, but also caused me to get pregnant with my son in the past. My natural hormone levels don't even fall within range for me to ovulate (it's called Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome). So, when I was on birth control, it heightened my hormone levels above the ovulation range, and when I went off of birth control, my hormone levels fell right in place for me to get pregnant immediately, whereas with normal women, it takes about 3 months for the birth control hormones to get out of their system and return them to normal. So my advice is, check your hormone levels before going on anything.
Now it's your turn, ladies. It's Women's Talk Wednesday, so let's chat some! Share any experiences you are comfortable with sharing, your opinions, what you have found in your research of this subject.