Friday, December 31, 2010

2011 Resolutions

Ahh, yes, it's that time of year again; time to make New Year's Resolutions that, in all honesty, will probably last until the end of January. I'm great at making lists, and crossing things off my lists, but as far as big life changes- those I tend to just jump head first into without much planning. Yeah, I've drowned a few times, but it's always just made me a stronger swimmer.

The funny (possibly even ironic) thing is, I have the knowledge and tools to achieve the resolutions I make for myself (we all do, but I cheated a while ago, researched all the different philosophies on it, and came up with my own, simple way). I used to do a workshop when I owned my store, on turning your dreams into reality and the 5 steps needed to reach any goal (for those wondering, it was all completely original, meaning, I didn't read someone else's book and just hold a workshop in it's honor; the workshop and ideas in it were all mine). I had amazing feedback from people who attended the workshop, even some positive follow ups a few months later on how they were achieving their goals, still. Hmm. Maybe it's time to dust off the old workshop folders and give it a look through (possible blog post for the new year???).

Any goal, not just a resolution, is successfully reached when there's a plan of action involved. Simply making the resolution isn't enough. 'I want to lose weight in 2011.' Okay, how? What are you going to do to obtain that goal, to make that resolution concrete? Just stating the resolution doesn't give it enough substance, enough motivation needed to achieve it most times. So, rephrase; 'I'm going to lose weight in 2011 by cooking healthy meals, running 3 times a week and joining a gym.' Now that goal is tangible- you've stated what it is (in the present active form, nonetheless) and how you are going to achieve it. Makes it easier to understand and obtain.

Ahh, yes, the workshop is coming back to me now....

So, here's Tatted Mom's 2011 New Year's Resolutions, as well as my plans for accomplishing them, in no particular order:

  1. Quit Smoking. If you've been a follower for a while, or at least just nosy in my blog, you'll know I've been struggling with this for some time. It's time, though, and it finally feels right. So, my plan of attack? First, I will start out by smoking myself retarded until midnight. I want my lungs to bleed by the time I'm done, to where the thought of smoking causes my stomach to flip and my lungs to beg me for mercy. I'm thinking full flavored menthols are the way to go with this one. Get those last hits in before January 1st. Then, after the new year begins, just keep myself busy, chew my straws, resort to nicotine gum if I need it, and stay focused. I know what my triggers are- boredom and talking on the phone. So, if I stay busy and stay away from the area we would normally smoke in while I'm on the phone, it should make things easier. 
  2. Start Yoga Again. Not only was I so much more emotionally stable when I did yoga, but I slept better at night, was way more flexible, had more energy, and didn't feel the need to smoke at all. So, it's a win/win situation if you ask me. Center myself, gain strength and flexibility, have energy to tackle anything, trim the pooch I have just below my belly button and my lovehandles, and just feel amazing again. Doing yoga when I first wake up in the morning is the most feasible way for me to keep up with it, so I'll start that shortly into the new year.
  3. Conquer the Money Problems. I have so many of these I don't even know where to start. In all honesty, I'll probably go ahead and declare bankruptcy on the store's debts. It's about the only choice I have anymore. I owned my own store for 3 years, which closed about 2 years ago, and left me with a mountain of debt and evading bill collectors ever since. I'm tired of hitting 'ignore' on their calls, so I'm just gonna get rid of it all. Yeah, it will be on my credit for the next 10 years, but I have a licking glass credit score as it is, so it really can't be any worse. After that, there's a good chance I'll probably have to enter the world of the working again and get a job. I'll have to weigh my job options with the cost of daycare, though, and the hours spent away from my kids, so I don't end up not seeing my kids for 3 years like I did while I was a tattoo artist.  That definitely sucked. 
  4. Reconnect With Myself. I used to be this highly spiritual, hippie-type, always smiling, in tune with herself and other people, woman. I'm still always smiling, will pull out my hippie skirts every now and then, but the rest has been lost somewhere. I allowed my past job, and past relationships, to suck the 'Morgan' right out of me, and damn it, I want it back. How to achieve this? I'm going to start by reading again. I have so many books on my bookshelf to help me out with getting back to me. So, it's time to dust those off, as well, and get started on reclaiming myself. 
  5. Write. Starting my blog a few months ago has been amazing for me. It's given me a creative outlet and the means of sharing a hobby of mine with the world. What it has also done, though, is created this little monster inside me- a good monster, but a monster. I've found that I love writing, and while my blog satisfies this love, it makes me want to expand out. This resolution will need a little more planning, a little more thinking involved, but maybe 2011 will include me writing a book. Wow, that makes me smile. I'll continue to blog, to post articles out there on the internet, but in the background I'll be planning and working for larger things. 

So there they are, my 2011 resolutions. I'm going to continue to strive for happiness, to remain optimistic, and this year, to forgive. I hold onto a lot of the past- would haves, what ifs, etc, and it really isn't the best thing to do. It's time to forgive myself for mistakes I made in the past, and forgive those who have hurt me. Everything I've been through has made me who I am today, and I wouldn't change that for the world, so instead of replaying things over and over in my mind, it's time to forgive and be thankful... And move on, for me. 

5 comments:

  1. Those are good resolutions and ones I can empathize with. I wish you the very best of luck and Happy New Year's Eve!

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  2. Best of luck with your resolutions! I haven't fully quit smoking yet, but I've come to a point where I can go weeks without needing a cig. I have found that always having them available keeps me from freaking out that I can't smoke. But I'm a "tell me what I can't do and it makes me want to do it more" type of person. ;)

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  3. Happy New Year . . . good luck with the resolutions. They don't work for me, so I don't do them. Quitting smoking is one of the hardest things I have ever done in my life . . . I quit for two years and I'm back with it again. Stay away from smokers if you can!

    Blogging really helps to reconnect with yourself . . . I can relate to the job thing and financial woes . . . it can suck the life out of you if you let it. I've been though hell and back since becoming a widow 8 years ago . . . but I made it through and have become a happy member of the real world again. Blogging has been my therapy!

    Following you from Magical Monday! Hope you can get a chance to visit my blogs . . . I look forward to exploring more of your blog :)

    Have an awesome day . . . Gina

    http://peacelovehappinesshappens.blogspot.com
    http://labelladiva.blogspot.com
    . . . and many more!

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  4. those are some great ones!! I have been smoke free since 2008; i went cold turkey!

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  5. I think your list sounds good. Too many of us yes me write a list of resolutions and by Feb. forget it. Good luck with the quitting smoking one. My mother was a smoker all my life and she ended up passing away at the age of 58 when I just turned 30. It has been the hardest thing going through life without her. Remember it isn't only you that suffers. Sorry to be so harsh but I pray this is something you can achieve.

    The money one sucks and I am sorry to hear that but it can't be fun ignoring the phone calls and hiding from the truth. I hope it all works out for you!

    Megan

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