I've been MIA for a few days; dealing with stuff in my life, which, I'm choosing today to turn into a blog post. That's what we bloggers do, right? Take from our personal experiences, jazz them up a bit and share them with our piece of the internet world.
Dictionary.reference.com defines Drama as:
1. a composition in prose or verse presenting in dialogue or pantomime a story involving conflict or contrast of character, esp. one intended to be acted on the stage; a play.
2. the branch of literature having such compositions as its subject; dramatic art or representation.
3. the art dealing with the writing and production of plays.
4. any situation or series of events having vivid, emotional,conflicting, or striking interest or results: the drama of a murder trial.
5. the quality of being dramatic.
I really think a few more modern definitions of Drama needs to be added to the traditional one:
6. the act of sticking one's nose into other people's business and starting sh*t.
7. the act of creating tension or a crazy situation in order to make one feel better about their own life.
8. the act of stirring sh*t to either A) Take the focus off one's self or B) Put the focus on one's self.
9. a frequent occurrence, and favorite way to pass the time, in small towns with gossiping people.
By the traditional definition, Drama can be an amazing thing- the birth of a child, winning the lottery, surviving a car accident- these are all things that would have a vivid, emotional result. And, yes, to some point, most people need a small form of drama in their lives to just make things interesting. Hell, by my new definition #8, the government even causes drama- have you ever noticed around election time or a time when society's focus is on a major government decision or action, that a plane crash, or natural disaster, or new threat to our nation's security all of a sudden pops up? It's an effort to take focus off of a bigger issue. Most of us watch TV to get our daily dose of drama; submerse ourselves in a crime show or soap opera to get that conflicting result or interest. And, some of us have children, which eases that primal need of excitement- trying to pry that wad of play dough out of little Johnny's nose so you don't have to make a trip to the emergency room; waking up to find little painted hand prints all down the walls of the hallway- these are small acts of drama that keep our blood pumping.
But, when life gets a little boring, some people feel the need to start drama. Most of the time, this drama has a focus, and, if correctly thought through, can be acted upon with the desired affects of causing that emotional response desired at the time. If the drama-starter has not thoroughly thought out their drama-starting antics, though, or is acting purely out of emotion, the drama snowball can grow and grow. That's when drama becomes detrimental, and quite frankly, a pain in the ass.
So let's go ahead and break drama down, as far as a successful vs. a non-successful drama starting attempt. Learn from experiences with drama.
- Know the consequences before you initiate drama. What you set out to achieve may not occur. In fact, the opposite may happen. So, fully understand the fallout and what could occur thereafter, especially the possibility of revenge and what avenue that could take.
- Know your opponent(s). What mental or emotional state are they in? You would hate for an emotionally unstable person to hurt someone or themselves as a result of your drama-starting. And, if dealing with multiple people, know their situation. Let's say, for example, your goal is to split a couple up. What is their relationship like presently? Do they talk openly about everything that happens, to where, when you attempt your sh*t starting, they haven't already discussed the possibility of something like that occurring?
- Cover your tracks, or, never leave a trail back to you. Usually impossible to do, so, maybe starting drama shouldn't be something you partake in.
- Create doubt. In the case that things start to lead back to you, have an alibi, or, at least introduce doubt into the person's mind that maybe it wasn't you. Again, tough to achieve.
- Never lie. If you have to make up lies to start your drama, you have no business attempting it anyway. Lies only cause more problems for you, whether it's trying to keep your lies straight, or remembering who you told what, or, in the event you do get caught, you get backed into a corner to where the only way out is more lies.
By following the steps above, your drama-starting event has the highest possibility for success. Seeing as most of those 'tips' are extremely difficult to achieve, you can see why so many attempts at starting sh*t fail.
If the drama just happens to be an act of God, so to speak, like being in the right place at the right time and witnessing something, then take that as a sign- a huge one. Sometimes things just happen to bring issues to light or to show you the way; it's not always the act of an unhappy person or situation. There's not much I can say about those types, except keep your head on straight when you deal with it. Get yourself together, format a plan, and stick to it.
If you are a victim of someone else's drama though, once the storm is weathered, and any possible damage is taken care of and repaired, I say, instead of retaliating and creating more drama, pat yourself on the back. Obviously, you and/or your life is so envious that other people feel the need to bring you down a peg or two. Not giving them the time of day will piss them the hell off, so that's always the best course of action, in my opinion.
Do thank them, though, whoever the sh*t starters are. By meddling in your business, they not only give you a boost of self confidence (see the paragraph above about being envied), but the lessons learned and the strength gained if crap like that ever comes at you again. You don't have to call them up or thank them face to face; that could further the drama. But, in the least, smile and figure out your own way to thank them, even if it's just in your head.
So, in conclusion, I do this:
=) Thank you, AH, FAS and GS (not initials, so don't worry, they are code for the terms Z and I use when we talk about them- everyone should have codes...). You have opened my eyes and given me strength. May your little worlds of lies come crashing down on you, by a drama-starting act of God, of course, or by your own manipulative actions (more likely scenario) cause this chica is done with all of you.