Tuesday, November 30, 2010

My Rights as a Mom

Rights are found everywhere; human rights, civil rights, animal rights, child rights, patient rights, criminal rights... but what about Mommy Rights? I actually googled 'Mom rights' before starting this article (see, I do research for my blog), and the only thing that really came up were rights that single moms had. There are 'parental rights' out there, but they are more for making sure the kids are taken care of and what happens if they aren't. When I think Mommy Rights, I'm not thinking legal mumbo jumbo, what my core job as a parent is to my kids, and the consequences that occur if I don't fulfill that job. I'm talking about the added perks that we get for carrying a child for 9 months, gaining weight, getting stretch marks, living on virtually no sleep for years, never having personal time- not even in the bathroom, living on coffee, and constantly having to wipe butts and noses, tie shoes, turn shirts around the proper way, break up sibling fights, cook, clean and worry, a.k.a. the Joys of Motherhood.

As a Mommy, I have the Right to:

Monday, November 29, 2010

Kids and Cussing 101

I'm a cusser. Not the best thing for a mom to be, but hey, we all have our vices. I worked as pretty much the only female in a male dominated shop, company, and industry for 3 years; I've heard it all, participated in just about every dirty, nasty conversation there is, and, quite honestly, had to hold my own as the only female. So, I learned how to have a quick tongue (figuratively speaking), blast back insults at the men, and developed a thick skin when it came to raunchy conversation. And let me tell you, now that I've left that life behind, I've had a few people tell me they miss my ability to stand up and put people in their place.

Now that I'm back to being a stay at home mom, the cussing is a flaw more than an asset, as it was in my old life. My 8 year old knows what cuss words are, and knows not to repeat them. My 6 year old, however, will repeat just about anything for a reaction- at home, at school, on the phone with family... yeah, that was a fun one to explain. And, while it's sometimes hilarious when a kids cusses (you can't tell me it isn't, depending on how they use a word, the context, and if it was even used correctly), the hardest thing to do as a parent is to not burst out laughing when you are trying to get the 6 year old into the bath, saying 'How about you just go get into the bath?' and out of nowhere he says, 'Yeah, how about I just go brush my balls?' True story. I couldn't make that up if I wanted to. (That little saying apparently came from daycare, by the way, not me. His sister ratted him out on that one.)

Sunday, November 28, 2010

Christmas Wish List for my Blog

I hope that everyone had a wonderful Thanksgiving; I took a few days off from blogging to spend time with the family and just relax. I think I opened my laptop twice in the last 4 days, and it was amazing, though I will admit I've missed my virtual family.

So now, with Halloween and Thanksgiving behind us, it's time to look ahead to Christmas. I've already done most, if not all, of my kids' shopping. Hubby and Z are in the works, as well as extended family. But, it's made me think about myself, though not in the greedy way, necessarily.  

I have a Christmas Wish List for my blog. Is that crazy? That's crazy. It's cool; won't be the first time I've had a crazy idea....

Wednesday, November 24, 2010

The Opposite of Wordless Wednesday

Have you ever felt the need to just ramble? Somehow make concrete all of the thoughts and ideas swirling through your head? Maybe the thoughts are all related, but you don't know how until you get it all out. That's what I feel like doing today, so, where most Mommy bloggers are posting pictures that say it all, I'm going to be saying it all in an attempt to quiet my mind.

Tuesday, November 23, 2010

Lego Cake Adventure and Recipe- Tatted Mom Style

Today is my son's 6th birthday. As seen in previous posts, he is obsessed with Legos (found in every corner of my house, under every piece of furniture, in the laundry, everywhere). So, at 8 last night when the kiddos went to bed, Z and I began our Lego Cake Adventure, which we documented (well, after having been baking for about an hour- I kinda forgot until then), to share with you all.

Monday, November 22, 2010

Sacrificing to the Gods of the Holiday Season

*I swear the title of this post is not sacrilegious; it's meant as humorous and, in a funny way, accurately depicts my feelings right now. Read on to see what I mean.....

We are coming into that time of year- holiday wonder and excitement, hot chocolate, presents under an evergreen tree, Santa and his elves, warm snuggly nights by the fire....

...and worry over whether they'll be enough under the Christmas tree, whether you are heading to your family or they are coming to you this year, big meals to plan and execute with precision, finding that perfect gift for the one you love, and so much more. I'm so not trying to sound like a pessimist; those that know me, know that I have always been able to see the silver lining, always look on the bright side. It's just a fact that the holiday season is stressful, and my family and I are not immune to that. This year, moreso than any other really, money is tight, so I worry about the presents for the kids. That's my biggest focus this year- making sure my kids don't feel the pinch that we've gotten ourselves into.

Ghoulia Yelps
So far this season, we've spent $182.00 on the kids for Christmas. For that $182.00, I've gotten my son some Lego figurines he wanted (the ones with the spiky hair from Exoforce, for those that speak Lego), my daughter 10 Goosebumps books, and, as their 'big' present, a Nintendo Wii with four games- Mario Galaxy, The Legend of Zelda: Twilight Princess, Sonic Riders Zero Gravity, and Animal Crossing. My secret so far this year is ebay. I started shopping early, watched auction after auction until I pounced on the ones I could tell were good deals, and I NEVER went above my pre-determined budget amount for whatever I was buying. So yes, the Wii and extras are all used, but, come Christmas morning when they head into the living room and see that Santa already set up the Wii for them, they honestly will never know it was used. And the other presents are used, too, but, I ended up spending $10 for the 3 Lego Exoforce figurines (the only thing my son is really worried about), instead of $40 for the entire Exoforce kit that comes with maybe 2 guys. That's why I love ebay. Now, if only I can win an auction for that Monster High doll, Ghoulia Yelps, I want to get for my daughter. It's the 'it' toy this year, sold out at Target (the main retailer), and go for $40+ mostly everywhere right now. My max budget for this item is $25, and gosh darnit, if I have to check ebay each and every day and sacrifice a chicken to the Monster High gods, I'll do it to get this doll for her for $25. (Okay, maybe not the chicken part, but you get my drift.....)

So, with the kids partially taken care of, and me constantly on the hunt for deals for them, that just leaves hubby and Z. I have ideas for both of them (hubby's, I've already tried a 'Best Offer' bid on ebay and was shot down immediately; now I have to wait for the 7 or so auctions I'm watching to play out, some of them not ending for 6 days- I'm impatient as hell- and I'll still probably get what I want for the 'Best Offer' bid I put in today), and Z is pretty simple (plus she's getting a homemade gift that's been designing itself in my head for days now).

Is it wrong to admit that I'm a little worried about myself this season? Yes, it's all about giving and not receiving, and as long as my kids are taken care of, I'll be the happiest mom ever, but hey, we're all human, right? There is an awesome feeling seeing that box with your name under the tree, and the excitement that comes with not knowing what's inside. I've always over-thought Christmas- tried to find that gift for someone that will just surprise the hell outta them; I do strive for the shock factor every year. And with money being tight, I don't exactly know how this season will play out for the adults in the family. I have control over getting hubby and Z something, but is the same amount of thought or effort going into finding me something at a hella discount, or am I going to be forgotten about? I've tried giving hubby some ideas for cheap presents for me, but he says he wants to figure it out himself. I applaud him for wanting to be original, but that doesn't mean the worry doesn't sit with me just a little. I'm an easy person to please; get me a hella good box of red hair dye and a few used books and I'm golden. Maybe a cheap pair of toe socks I can wear around the house. I guess I'll just have to sit back and be patient (not a strong suit of mine)...

... and continue to sacrifice to the gods of the holiday season. Sacrifice four hours of time spent on ebay for getting those Goosebumps books for $9. Offer after offer shot down just to finally wait out that 6 day auction to get it for the price I want. Needle pricks sustained to hand make that gift for the grandmommas. And having some cheap, good ol' fashioned hamburger helper for dinner once in a while so the money can be used for making Christmas just a little bit better this year (nothing wrong with hamburger helper, hubby just isn't a big fan). These are the sacrifices we moms go through for our families, and we have a smile on our face every step of the way....

Sunday, November 21, 2010

Virtual OCD

So, today is a lazy day in the Tatted household. Hubby is playing Call of Duty, Z and the kids are Simming it up, and I am running through my daily blogs, venturing out to include more in my reading circle. I feel like I need a new look to my blog. I know, I've only had it for about a month now, but I feel it needs an overhaul. We'll see. I'm thinking maybe I just need to divert my need to design something to my Etsy store, finally get that up and running. Oh, Ebay. Almost forgot my auctions are about up. Definitely need to go check that, and the items I'm bidding on for the kids for Christmas....

Today I want to share with you all a 'need' of mine. It must be confessions week here at The Inklings of Life, considering earlier this week I shared a deep dark secret of mine (which, let me tell you, was put to the TEST this morning while I was reading a very horribly written blog about how to make money using your blog. Hubby and Z had to hold me down from copying the blog, editing it in red in one of my photo programs and emailing it to the person. Thank goodness I don't remember where I found this blog, and can hopefully never go back to it, though someone needs to clear my browsing history, now...).

I need to control things....

Okay, that sounds so wrong, doesn't it? I don't have this need to control my loved one's lives, or the finances, run the household, tell everyone what to do- that kind of stuff. My need to control things goes much deeper than that, to a level past human interaction....

I need to control virtual things. I will break this need down...

  1. My Blog. It seems on Sundays I go through my blog, rearrange things, add things, take things away. I'm striving for a neat, orderly, helpful, yet fun and entertaining look that keeps people coming back and isn't a burden on my readers (or an eyesore- that's the worst thing in my opinion). Today I added to my BlogRoll, added to the sidebar a little, and am contemplating losing some things in my sidebars. Urgh, always striving for perfection...
  2. Strategic Life-Simulation Games, aka 'The Sims'. Back in the day, I used to get off of work, fire up The Sims on the Playstation 2, and, before I knew it, it was 2 in the morning. I had to break that habit quickly, and now, because games like these are a flat-out addiction for me, I try to stay away from them altogether. But, when the need (itch) hits me, I end up staying on the computer for hours, barely having contact with the real world. There's nothing more satisfying than having complete control over 'people' and 'situations'. You want to go to the bathroom? No, clean up the mess you left in the kitchen, first, and then I'll let you go to the bathroom. Yes, I kept you up until 2am reading about Cooking so you don't go and burn down the kitchen again, but now it's 6am and you need to get up and go to work, damnit. And, yes, I have been known to lock all of the Sims into a room, remove the door, and let them panic. The Grim Reaper that visits them when they die of insanity is kinda cute. I know, I'm a horrible, horrible person, killing virtual Sims. Most recently, this need has been fulfilled by Trailer Park Tycoon. Yes, it's like Mall Tycoon, or Zoo Tycoon, or Rollercoaster Tycoon, but in this one, you build Trailer Parks. Hehehehe. The more rednecked-out your trailer park is, the bigger the turnout, the more money you make. So yes, Trailer Park builder, I would love to add a stack of tires in that resident's yard, or a plastic duck pond next to the pink flamingos in that lucky soul's yard. My trashy points are high enough for me to now recruit that Lottery Winner to move into my trailer park? Hells yeah. This calls for celebration- I'm adding a metal nativity scene and a big plastic dinosaur to the community playground, and I'll lower the prices in your swap shop. Ahhh, satisfaction at it's best.
  3. My Facebook. Sunday is usually the day I do my stalking on Facebook. I recently moved 2000 miles away from family and friends, so those that I still keep up with, I share my virtual love. I do control my Facebook heavily, though. I control who sees what, allow certain people to see what I want them to see, block certain people from seeing things, and, to be completely honest, I don't let very many people on my Facebook. I have to have actually met you, gone to school with you, or are related to you for you to be on my Facebook. There are a few exceptions, but it's a very few. I'm just not a big fan of drama, and Facebook seems to cause a lot of that. So, I keep mine locked up tight as a way to help control the outside chaos from coming into my family and my life. Sometimes it works, sometimes things fall through the cracks. 
  4. Ebay. OMG, the rush I get as that timer counts down to the last second and I'm still the high bidder. Thank goodness I won that set of Lego figurines for my son- he'll love them. WHAT??? Outbid IN THE LAST SECOND? CHEATERS!!! Oh, that makes my blood boil. But, it sets me out on a mission to find even a better deal than the one I was outbid on. And selling on Ebay is addictive, too, especially if you don't check it for a while, and load your 'My ebay' screen to see that you have been paid $63.24 in the past few days. Cha-ching! Money for more shopping on ebay. It's a vicious circle, yes....

Sunday does seem to be the day to feed my virtual control need. Hell, it's after 1pm here and I'm still in my jammies, with 4 tabs open in my Google Chrome. There were 7 tabs open before I started blogging, so, at least I've cut back a little. Yes, dinner will be started here soon, the kids' homework finished up, a load or two of laundry done, and a family movie watched (We watched Cats & Dogs: The Revenge of Kitty Galore last night- everyone in the house, including me, hubby and Z, were laughing so hard, especially at the pigeon, Seamus. Amazing!!). But for now, I will feed my need a little bit more. Auctions are ending on Ebay, need to double check my blog look, and pull up my Etsy store....

Ahh, lazy Sundays....

Saturday, November 20, 2010

Vain Little Zombie Kitty

It's Saturday, so you all know what that means...

Zombie Kitty Saturday!!

Hey, wait, that's ME!! How do I pause this thing.....

I have mentioned to you all before that Zombie Kitty is obsessed with my laptop. She sits on the armrest of the sofa and watches my screensaver, which scrolls through pictures. This day, when she saw the picture of herself, she lunged at the computer, complete with her hand on the touch pad- so adorable!!

Just Married with Coupons

Friday, November 19, 2010

Let's Go Hunting Daddy

I realized I've had something stuck in my head for a few days. Today's the day to get it out.

Hi, everyone. My name is Tatted Mom, and I'm a Grammar Nazi. There, I said it.

Admitting it is the first step, right?

Grammar, punctuation, spelling- it all drives me up the wall!

Oh, and that comes with another confession. Uh, this one is hard for me to admit. Let me take a deep breath first, stretch my fingers a bit so I can be ready to type this.....

I'm a Comma Whore.

Oh, it feels so good to get that out there. I love commas. If I am ever in doubt, I stick a comma in for pausing effect. (Grr, 'affect' and 'effect' are my nemesis- more on that later...) I love to have my thoughts clearly portrayed, so, when I read my post before hitting 'publish', if I paused in my head, you get a comma. Are all of my commas necessary? Probably not. Oh, well, I love them!

So, I'm a Grammar Nazi and a Comma Whore. Whew, that sounds like an episode of Jerry Springer, doesn't it?

One of my largest pet peeves in the world is grammar- using the wrong 'its' or 'there', or spelling, or punctuation. For the love of *insert personal deity here* USE PUNCTUATION!! Why, you ask?

Let's go hunting Daddy.

Wait, what? Like, hunting to kill? The kids' Dad? Does he get a head start? This woman is crazy....

Try this: Let's go hunting, Daddy.

Ahh, the kid wants to go hunting with their Dad. Makes SO much more sense now....

Punctuation. Exactly.

Found these online and got happy!
Picture courtesy of The Temple of Commerce

Then there's the whole 'its, it's', 'there, their and they're', 'affect' and 'effect', etc. The first two are easy- taught in 2nd grade English class. It just takes a second when you are writing to get those straight. 'Affect' and 'effect' have always pissed me off. I have looked up the definitions of both, of when to use them correctly, and I still don't get it. I've had people explain it to me in words a preschooler can understand- still don't get it. So, I've finally come to terms with the fact I may never use 'affect' and 'effect' correctly. Thus is life.... (The picture to the right is of actual labels I found for sale online. The smart-ass in me wants to buy some right now! I found them at The Temple of Commerce.)

Through modern day technology, spelling should no longer be an issue. Spell check is found on every publishing or writing program out there. So, if spelling isn't your forte, there's easy help for that. Click the button, check the highlighted words, and go from there. It's not rocket science.

Now, with all of these confessions today, you might think I'm one of those proper texters, too. Nope, not me. For the sake of brevity, I will use 'u' for 'you', 'ur' for 'your', 'brb' for 'be right back', 'omg' for 'oh my god', 'LMAO' for 'laughing my ass off', so on and so forth. I don't use 'sry' for 'sorry', 'ttyl' for 'talk to you later' or any of the other extremely shortened forms for much longer phrases; I want the person on the other end of that text to understand what I'm saying, not to have to go google text abbreviations to know that I need them to bring milk home on their way from work.

No, I have never read the book, 'Eats, Shoots & Leaves', but I have heard amazing things about it. Z has a copy of it. I must go snatch it from her shelf and  read it, if nothing else for the self-satisfaction of 'YES!! Thank you, someone understands my pet peeve!'

Most days, my Grammar Nazi personality lies dormant; I can control it. Then, there are some days I'll read an article online and want to bring out my red marker and completely destroy my laptop screen- comma needed there, no apostrophe there, spell check here, period there and capitalize that to start a new sentence. I have to sit on my hands to keep myself from emailing the author and telling them to quit their day job. OH, and handwritten signs. Those are the worst. 'Orange's For Sale'. Who is Orange, and what exactly of theirs is for sale? Oh, you meant 'Oranges For Sale'. Well, that's completely different. Grrr.

My Grammar Nazi isn't a bitch, though. I won't correct people I don't know, unless they bring me something to proofread. Most of the time, too, I won't correct those I know either, because while it's a pet peeve of mine, it's not enough for me to speak up. Some people take offense to it, so I try to let the Grammar Nazi out as little as possible.

I'm so glad I could get this off my chest today. Being able to share my little demons means so much....

In conclusion, today, I have these for you all....

And this is your business???
So glad my kids won't be going there...

SO many things wrong with this one, I have no idea where to start...

So, wait, is it real or fake? I'm confused....


Thursday, November 18, 2010

Thirsty Thursday is DEFINITELY Calling Me...

Let's start this post off by saying I'm not an alcoholic. The last time I drank was maybe 2 weeks ago, and I had one shot of Grape Pucker (amazing by the way- tasted just like grape kool-aid) and laid in front of the TV for the rest of the night. Even a few years ago, when I was at the peak of my drinking, I was still a 3 drink wonder. Kept expenses low, I guess. But, with the exception of taking a few shots on a bad night (at my apartment, kids at their dad's house, with PJ's already on and falling into bed immediately after), I've never used alcohol to numb myself from the outside world. I've never tried to find the answers at the bottom of a bottle, and, even if that's what it seemed like at the time to outside spectators, who can find the answers to anything after only 3 drinks? Really? Three drinks and it's sleepy time. Seriously.

Today, though, the Grape Pucker is screaming at me. Not screaming at me to come drink right now (my gosh, it's 11 in the morning), but I hear it saying, 'Hey. Tonight, after the kids are in bed, how about you and I have a little rendezvous? Nothing much. Maybe a shot, maybe mix me with some grape kool-aid. Sit back and watch The Big Bang Theory, laugh your ass off, relax, and say eff the outside world. How's that sound?'

And yes, Grape Pucker, that sounds amazing....

It seems like, whenever I get through something in my life, another something pops up in it's place. Lately my somethings seem to all be originating from the cesspool of a town I moved 2000 miles away from. Gossip and hearsay are one thing, but downright lies (to the point of photoshopping a string of emails to add things that I did not say) hurt me. I can handle gossip. I have no problem with gossip. But, when people go to the extent that the latest something has, to..... that's the thing. I have NO idea what the purpose of it was. I have tried to figure out the motivation behind why this person did this, and I can't come up with a damn reason why. She needs to refer to my post yesterday about drama, I guess. See the whole thing about lying...

So yes, after so freshly blogging about something similar yesterday, I need to take my own advice, smile and say thank you. Obviously, to go to the extent of photoshopping 'evidence' to support your lie, me and my life must just aggravate the piss outta you. So thank you, FAS; I guess I've lived my life correctly for others, or just you in the least, to be so envious.

Ahh, blogging does make everything so much better. It's not to say the Grape Pucker still isn't calling out to me. But, is it really so wrong? To have gone through so much bs in the past 3 days that you just want to let go and say eff it? Don't I deserve to celebrate putting this all behind me, for weathering the storm and, I guess for being so damn awesome that people just downright lie about me (and photoshop emails. I know I've said it 3 times now, but seriously. That takes time and effort... Wow and WTF?!)? Stay responsible, have a drink or two, and just let this all melt away. Seriously, Inklingers, I would LOVE some feedback on this post!! Opinions, the good, the bad, the ugly- anything!

All I can say now is yes. Yes, I believe I deserve a drink tonight after all this crap. Yes, I am proud to live my life the way I do. Yes, all of this has given me strength and lessons learned. And yes, I do hope some sort of nuclear spill occurs back east, just in that little cesspool of a town, that only affects people like FAS, AH and GS. Doesn't hurt anyone else, just renders those few with like oozy looking skin, or, causes some adverse affect to where they can only ever tell the truth for the rest of their lives. That would be the worst thing for them, I believe. Absolute torture. Is it horrible that I'm smiling now? Like huge cheesy grin. Ahh, eff it. Grape Pucker and I have a date.....

Obviously MARvelous

Wednesday, November 17, 2010

A New Take on Drama

I've been MIA for a few days; dealing with stuff in my life, which, I'm choosing today to turn into a blog post. That's what we bloggers do, right? Take from our personal experiences, jazz them up a bit and share them with our piece of the internet world.

Dictionary.reference.com defines Drama as:


1. a composition in prose or verse presenting in dialogue or pantomime a story involving conflict or contrast of character, esp. one intended to be acted on the stage; a play.

2. the branch of literature having such compositions as its subject; dramatic art or representation.

3. the art dealing with the writing and production of plays.

4. any situation or series of events having vivid, emotional,conflicting, or striking interest or results: the drama of a murder trial.

5. the quality of being dramatic.

I really think a few more modern definitions of Drama needs to be added to the traditional one:

6. the act of sticking one's nose into other people's business and starting sh*t.

7. the act of creating tension or a crazy situation in order to make one feel better about their own life.

8. the act of stirring sh*t to either A) Take the focus off one's self or B) Put the focus on one's self.

9. a frequent occurrence, and favorite way to pass the time, in small towns with gossiping people.

By the traditional definition, Drama can be an amazing thing- the birth of a child, winning the lottery, surviving a car accident- these are all things that would have a vivid, emotional result. And, yes, to some point, most people need a small form of drama in their lives to just make things interesting. Hell, by my new definition #8, the government even causes drama- have you ever noticed around election time or a time when society's focus is on a major government decision or action, that a plane crash, or natural disaster, or new threat to our nation's security all of a sudden pops up? It's an effort to take focus off of a bigger issue. Most of us watch TV to get our daily dose of drama; submerse ourselves in a crime show or soap opera to get that conflicting result or interest. And, some of us have children, which eases that primal need of excitement- trying to pry that wad of play dough out of little Johnny's nose so you don't have to make a trip to the emergency room; waking up to find little painted hand prints all down the walls of the hallway- these are small acts of drama that keep our blood pumping.

But, when life gets a little boring, some people feel the need to start drama. Most of the time, this drama has a focus, and, if correctly thought through, can be acted upon with the desired affects of causing that emotional response desired at the time. If the drama-starter has not thoroughly thought out their drama-starting antics, though, or is acting purely out of emotion, the drama snowball can grow and grow. That's when drama becomes detrimental, and quite frankly, a pain in the ass.

So let's go ahead and break drama down, as far as a successful vs. a non-successful drama starting attempt. Learn from experiences with drama.

  1. Know the consequences before you initiate drama. What you set out to achieve may not occur. In fact, the opposite may happen. So, fully understand the fallout and what could occur thereafter, especially the possibility of revenge and what avenue that could take.
  2. Know your opponent(s). What mental or emotional state are they in? You would hate for an emotionally unstable person to hurt someone or themselves as a result of your drama-starting. And, if dealing with multiple people, know their situation. Let's say, for example, your goal is to split a couple up. What is their relationship like presently? Do they talk openly about everything that happens, to where, when you attempt your sh*t starting, they haven't already discussed the possibility of something like that occurring? 
  3. Cover your tracks, or, never leave a trail back to you. Usually impossible to do, so, maybe starting drama shouldn't be something you partake in.
  4. Create doubt. In the case that things start to lead back to you, have an alibi, or, at least introduce doubt into the person's mind that maybe it wasn't you. Again, tough to achieve.
  5. Never lie. If you have to make up lies to start your drama, you have no business attempting it anyway. Lies only cause more problems for you, whether it's trying to keep your lies straight, or remembering who you told what, or, in the event you do get caught, you get backed into a corner to where the only way out is more lies. 
By following the steps above, your drama-starting event has the highest possibility for success. Seeing as most of those 'tips' are extremely difficult to achieve, you can see why so many attempts at starting sh*t fail. 

If the drama just happens to be an act of God, so to speak, like being in the right place at the right time and witnessing something, then take that as a sign- a huge one. Sometimes things just happen to bring issues to light or to show you the way; it's not always the act of an unhappy person or situation. There's not much I can say about those types, except keep your head on straight when you deal with it. Get yourself together, format a plan, and stick to it.

If you are a victim of someone else's drama though, once the storm is weathered, and any possible damage is taken care of and repaired, I say, instead of retaliating and creating more drama, pat yourself on the back. Obviously, you and/or your life is so envious that other people feel the need to bring you down a peg or two. Not giving them the time of day will piss them the hell off, so that's always the best course of action, in my opinion.

Do thank them, though, whoever the sh*t starters are. By meddling in your business, they not only give you a boost of self confidence (see the paragraph above about being envied), but the lessons learned and the strength gained if crap like that ever comes at you again. You don't have to call them up or thank them face to face; that could further the drama. But, in the least, smile and figure out your own way to thank them, even if it's just in your head.

So, in conclusion, I do this:

 =) Thank you, AH, FAS and GS (not initials, so don't worry, they are code for the terms Z and I use when we talk about them- everyone should have codes...). You have opened my eyes and given me strength. May your little worlds of lies come crashing down on you, by a drama-starting act of God, of course, or by your own manipulative actions (more likely scenario) cause this chica is done with all of you.


Monday, November 15, 2010

My First Award!!!

Yay!! My first award!! I'm so excited!!!

Karen bestowed upon me the Versatile Blogger Award...

*To accept this award, there are 4 rules*

1. Thank the person who gave you the award.

A HUGE thanks to Karen at Not Just Baby Talk for giving me this award. Hers is a blog that I follow myself, and read every post that pops up in my blogger reader's pane!! This is so cool!!!

2. Share seven things about yourself
(Some of you may already know this stuff about me, or maybe not!)

1. I'm scared of spiders, so I went and got a spider tattoo to help me face my fears. I'm scared of snakes, too, and that's my next tattoo in the works. Strange, I know.

2. I graduated 2nd in my class and have completed 3/4 of a double major degree in psychology and criminal justice. And I'll probably never go back to college.

3. My favorite TV shows are Dexter, Desperate Housewives, How I Met Your Mother, Rules of Engagement, Melissa and Joey, Survivor, The Big Bang Theory, Supernatural and Grey's Anatomy, but not in that order.

4. I have 7 piercings- my all time high was like 13 maybe, and 27? tattoos. Maybe 28? I lost count.

5. I'm addicted to salad, especially Olive Garden's. 

6. I owned a New Age store for 3 years, in the Bible Belt of all places.

7. I lived in England for 3 years and would do just about anything to move back.

3. Pass the award on to 12 bloggers you have recently discovered and who you think are fantastic.

Here's my list of 12...
4. Contact the bloggers you picked and let them know about the award.

Thanks for Reading!

Sunday, November 14, 2010

Sunday Rambling: Homemade Christmas, Money and Figuring Out That 'Something' Feeling

I woke up this morning with the overwhelming urge to do something. You'd think my yesterday, full of making Brunswick Stew for 6 hours, firing up the bread maker for the first time in 4 years and baking cookies would have been enough something for me. Guess not, because today I'm antsy. I don't even know if I could explain what type of something I'm feeling.

With this feeling of needing to do something, also came the feeling that Christmas is right around the corner and I haven't bought a thing for anyone. And, my son's birthday is a week and a half away and again, haven't gotten him anything, either. So, it's a mini-panic that I awakened with this morning, but with no easy solution. Money is really tight right now, so everything is going to have to be researched and bought with precision in order to get the most for our money. A pain in the ass, yes, but I always seem to have a sense of accomplishment when I save money or get a great deal on something.

Wait..... that something feeling is starting to take shape. Let's explore this more, continue to ramble freely, to see if the something completely emerges from the shadows...

Ok, where were we? Oh, yeah. Christmas: tight this year; money-saving; warm, fuzzy feelings. Urgh, I haven't even begun to think about my hubby or best friend for Christmas. OMG, or the extended family. Normally I make things for the extended family- parents, grandparents. Last year I believe it was pictures of the kids. Or that was the year before last? Blasted all. Anyway, yeah, possible idea again. I made gift baskets one year, complete with cookie mix in a jar type stuff, handmade pillows, my handmade bath stuff.....

The something is forming a little more now. Do I want to make things today? See what I have in my craft bin, fabric bins, etc and start looking up some homemade gift ideas? Possibly, possibly, yes, but let's ramble a little bit more....

The *something*
Money-saving: warm, fuzzy feelings; let's head back to that. It's Sunday- Sunday newspaper... grocery coupons... oh, coupon websites where you print your coupons... I do have to buy groceries this week... Yep, that just got added to my list of things to do today, with a smile, of course. I love saving money, so I don't mind clipping coupons at all.

The something has a little more shape now, but still not quite there.

Money is tight right now, that's for sure. I find it hard to believe the something feeling would have to do with making money, because last night I already made a list of things I needed to do today when it came to that. Relist auctions on Ebay, take pictures of more stuff for Craig's List, finish up the banner for my Etsy store and get the few items in that I've made so far. Yeah, all of these already on my list of things to do today. So, if that was the something feeling, it wouldn't still be there when I began to think of the things I already planned to do today, right? Yeah, I'm still missing something...

Recap so far of what we have figured out about this something feeling: Look through craft stuff to figure out family Christmas presents to make, clip coupons, complete my list of money earning ventures for the day.... Damnit, something is still missing... Let me go read what I've written so far, see what sticks out...

My son's birthday and my family's Christmas. That's it. That's the something I need to start to take care of today to make that feeling go away. I do have that $20 credit at Game Stop- perfect for a video game for my son's birthday. And, my kids' book club order is due back soon; the teacher sent a note with it saying if we wanted to buy things as a Christmas present, to let her know and she's keep it a secret from the kids. You can always get really good deals on book packages with those orders. Another possibility. And, since I will be on Ebay and Etsy already today, listing items, I might as well search around for some great deals for the kids, hubby, and Z (best friend). No harm in putting things on a 'watch' list, is there?

So, there you have it. The something has finally taken shape, and I know what to do today to feel accomplished. That, in itself, is an awesome feeling. Wonder what to start with? Get up and start rummaging through the garage, my craft bins, taking pictures? Or sit here with my cup of coffee and internet surf for a while? Ummm, coffee and lazy-productive wins right now. Don't judge; I just woke up.....

Saturday, November 13, 2010

Need Facebook Help, Fellow Mommy Bloggers!!

Okay, so I took the plunge last weekend and started a Facebook page for my blog. So far, it's not doing much! I go through other Mommy Blog Facebook pages, and I'm so inspired. I just don't know what to do with mine. I'm not sure what purpose it should have, if that makes any sense??

 And, I'm getting frustrated, because I did the simple thing and hooked up the 'Notes' tab to my RSS feed. The thing is, it has NEVER automatically updated it like Facebook says should happen. I've had to go in and manually add my blogs each time I write.

 I've seen people using Networked Blogs??? For those of you who use it, do you find it more helpful? Does it automatically update to your Facebook?

And then I've seen some Facebook pages for blogs that really have nothing to do with the blog.

But, no matter what, every page I go to has more than 20 'Likes'. I'm trying to use the Facebook platform, like so many other blogs have done, but I'm just lost, I guess.

So, here's where I'd like your help. What do you use your Facebook blog page for? How do you have it set up? Do you find it works for you, or is helpful in promoting your blog? What steps did you take to make your Facebook page just as successful as your actual blog?

Any and all help, tips, criticism, whatever, is greatly appreciated. If it would be easier for you to email me, instead of leaving a comment, please do: everchangingmoon@yahoo.com.

And, for those that want to check it out to see what I've got going on, to better give your opinion, my Facebook is The Inklings of Life.


Zombie Kitty, What the Hell?!?!

Yes, yes, it is Zombie Kitty Saturday once again. And this week, I don't think I could have posed these pictures any better.

Writes about me on her blog, I'll show her. Delete, delete, delete.....
Zombie Kitty really is obsessed with my laptop. When it's in sleeper mode, a slide show (which happens to contain the pictures from the cemetery we found her) plays, and she sits right there on the sofa arm rest and watches it. Then, every once in a while she'll attack the screen. This day, though, her right paw is dangerously close to my 'delete' key, so, we still wonder if she was watching like the National Geographic website on kitty mating before we walked into the room. Maybe having a little kitty chat time. Whatever it was, she covered it up quickly, deleting the history and all (maybe that website about how to cook human flesh??).

Aren't I precious? You'd never know I was watching you sleep last night, licking my Zombie Kitty lips....

And just when we think the Zombie is full on, she goes and does something extremely adorable. Well, this was with the help of my daughter, who decided she wanted to make a little bed for Bones (Zombie Kitty's real name, for those who aren't familiar with her yet). So, fashioned out of Legos (in my house? What??), and complete with Zombie Kitty's favorite victims playthings, and old clothes that no longer fit my daughter as blankets, Zombie Kitty actually curled right up and went to sleep. Adorable, but I'm still keeping an eye on her.....

Just Married with Coupons

Friday, November 12, 2010

Black Friday Can Kiss My... Yeah, That

It amazes me how each year Christmas seems to come earlier and earlier. Yes, I know it's always the 25th of December, but have you noticed how the stores used to promote their Christmas items and sales starting with Black Friday- the day after Thanksgiving? Then slowly in the beginning of November you began seeing Christmas decorations pop up in stores, stocking stuffer packages, and advertisements telling you that you need that new fandagled whatchamacallit in your home, or your friend does, so buy it for her. Now, stores are promoting Christmas with Halloween decorations still up, Thanksgiving just seems to get lost in the shuffle, and the stress level for those of us on a budget seems to start rising a little earlier than normal.

Hell, this morning, in fact, Yahoo! has an article on it's home page of the big sales you want to catch on Black Friday. It's 2 freaking weeks away, people. I'm still worried about getting my Thanksgiving dinner shopping done, and you want me to focus on Christmas? I've been known to do early shopping, don't get me wrong, but, things are tight this year. Maybe that means I need to be paying attention to the Black Friday sales. But here's the thing.....

Black Friday can kiss my..... yeah, that.

I have never fully understood Black Friday. Yes, the kickoff to the Christmas shopping season, yes, the major money-saving deals for the people who want to get up at 4 in the morning to do their shopping. Maybe it's because I didn't grow up in an area that really had Black Friday sales (the closest mall was over an hour away), or when I finally got out on my own, I worked retail, in a mall, on Black Friday, but I can't stand Black Friday. I stay in my house, off the roads, and sheltered away on Black Friday. I just don't get it.

It wasn't until hubby and I moved to South Carolina about 5 years ago that I really became immersed in the whole Black Friday thing. I had worked retail during Black Friday in years before that (as a store manager one year, 14+ hour day, and I was about 5 months pregnant- maybe subconsciously that's why I hate Black Friday...), so, I was on the flip side of the Black Friday madness. In SC, I had a friend who tried a few years to get me to go with her at 4 in the morning. Hell no, I'm still in a turkey coma, go ahead and go without me. She loved it, got up every year and did Black Friday. I finally asked her one year, "Why?". For her, it was the rush. She had 2 teenage boys who, of course like any teenagers, wanted the newest flashy, electronic gadgetmadoo. Through Black Friday, she was able to get her boys the things they wanted for a fraction of the price. I asked her if she minded the people, the cranky attitudes, the crowded craziness and, she really didn't. She, and some other friends of mine, had horror stories a few years of people fighting over TVs at WalMart, people putting their amazing Black Friday finds in their car and returning to the store just to have their car broken into in the parking lot and their items stolen while they were gone. But, in my opinion, she did the whole Black Friday thing right. She knew what her kids wanted, and researched who was putting what on sale, and went for it. What I really don't understand is, okay, sure you can get that $1000 laptop for $300 if you show up and stand in line starting at 4am. But, do you need that laptop? Is it an item that's on your Christmas list? Or, are you buying it for the sake of getting a $1000 laptop for $300?

That's the biggest way I tell Black Friday to kiss my.... yeah, that.

In my opinion, Black Friday is so over-marketed, and over-hyped, that it sends people into a whirlwind of 'I need that', 'I have to have that'. They put the items on sale that they want you to buy, and for a lot of people, it becomes 'Well, I couldn't pass up on that'. I've heard that some people go in with their lists, and when a frenzy is caused over in electronics because of the $2000 plasma TV that is going for $400, and there's only 5 left, all of a sudden it turns everyone's heads into, 'Maybe I need one of those, too? I didn't think I did, but there's only 4 left now, oh, wait, 3. Yeah, I need one'.

Now, don't get me wrong. I am not in any way, shape or form saying that people who participate in Black Friday are brainless shopping zombies that just buy exactly what everyone else is getting or what they are told. But, you do have to admit if you are a Black Friday participant, the media, the stores, and the sales do somewhat affect what you will be buying. Even if you have your list ready to go, what happens when they've sold out of one of the items on your list? Do you leave the store empty handed or search for whatever replacement is on sale? What about that person you have no idea what to get for Christmas? Ohhh, Best Buy has iPods for only $50 that morning? They'd like an iPod, that's what I'll get them. HA! The industry, the sale, the media, just bought a little piece of you for Christmas.

I have been known to partake in Cyber Monday. (The website in link explains Cyber Monday for those that don't know about it and gives you links to websites that are running Cyber Monday sales.) It's not something I have marked on my calendar though, and I don't buy simply because something is on sale. With Cyber Monday, you don't get caught up as much in the rush or the moment of buying what everyone else is. You're in your home, quiet, with time to think about purchases before making them. It's a better way, in my opinion, of taking advantage of sales on items you were already going to buy. Many places do free shipping on Cyber Monday, as well, so it's equivalent to going to the store and buying it (or cheaper, seeing as you won't be spending the money on gas). So, that's definitely something worth checking out if you want to save a few bucks on your Christmas shopping while keeping your sanity in tact.

I'm always open for feedback, and especially experiences of those who are Black Friday enthusiasts. I do love hearing about how much money saved on things, and personal stories of what motivates you to wrestle the crowds early that morning. Horror stories are always welcome, too. So, now that you've heard my opinion on it, fire back! I love a good spirited debate!